I am not a homosexual. I have never struggled with same sex attraction. I am in a heterosexual marriage. I deal with lust. I pray for God’s strength so I do not act upon this temptation. Most men I know struggle with heterosexual lust. Lots of women do too.
I shepherd people. I counsel adults through their marriage issues. I counsel young people through lust and sexual temptation.
From my experience and most everyone I counsel it seems heterosexual lust is a far bigger issue than homosexual lust. Many people from my generation struggle to live repentant lives on the heterosexual lust issue. I think it’s hard to argue against this point.
We all do plenty of sinning, I know I do. I have to confess and repent daily (or at least I should be!). I think any conversation of gay marriage, homosexuality, heterosexuality, and lust in general is very difficult to move forward in our times. I think this may not be due primarily because ”homosexuality” is the difficult word, or “lust,” is the difficult word, but because fundamentally “sin” itself has become a taboo topic for a people (U.S.A. culture) who don’t believe they are sinners.
Perhaps the voice of Christians to speak boldly against sin (pick whatever sin you want, you can borrow one from my long list I commit daily) is growing quieter, because Christians are losing the battle against sin in their own hearts.
Disclaimer: I am a sinner. So realize, you’re going to need to read this through gracious lens willing to overlook my lack of wisdom and bibical discernment. Any comment that is mean-spirited or ungracious will be deleted, so don’t even bother.
In a culture that calls lust love, where media confuses youth about intimacy and sex, may God’s grace free those shackled in sexual sin, and bring light to dark places that hold people in debilitating shame.
I do not seek to offend the non-Christian with my shallow thoughts. I offer no easy answers, no five steps to this or that, no band-aids, no psychological comfort, and no quick fixes. I can offer nothing, but to listen, and attempt enter a common sacred space. Now, I don’t expect the non-Christian to agree, understand, or take my side. In some cases, I fully expect for intellectual objections to remain intact. Still, something may happen one of these days where walls once so tall don’t seem so insurmountable anymore, for reasons that quite frankly defy reason. If this should ever happen, I know that the Holy Spirit, undetected, slipped into that conversation and spoke shalom into sacred space.
In my world of darkness, despair, sadness, and depression,
In my world that is tasteless and colorless,
In my world where an indescribable cloud looms overhead,
In my world where everything has lost its appeal and its hard to care about anything,
At times my world may intersect your world, and when they do we can keep each other company,
For then, you and me, we, the Christians will walk through the valley by faith, sustained by the hand of God we can no longer see, because we know our Savior has already won the victory on the hill of Calvary.
Jesus calls us to move toward reality.
The reality of who we are.
The reality of who He is.
To move towards a realistic picture about ourself takes…
dealing with guilt and shame
We avoid the truth about who we are to…
maintain our image
not face our failure and the difficult painful problems
continue to self-justify so we can continue to point the finger at others
To move towards reality about God takes…
being softened by God’s grace